THE MEANING OF TANTRIC SEX

The Mantra
The Yantra
About the Rituals
The Tantra Says
The One-Hour Rule

THE FEMALE ALONE RITUALS

The Mantra of Awareness
Awakening
Yantric Awareness
The Yantric Body
Focusing
Physical focus
Intensifying focus
Control of Pleasure and Power
Channeling Power and Energy

THE MALE ALONE  RITUALS

The Mantra of Awareness
Awakening
Yantric Awareness
The Yantric Body
Focusing
Physical focus
Intensifying focus
Control of Pleasure and Power
Channeling Power and Energy

COUPLES RITUALS:  THE SEVEN NIGHTS OF THE TANTRA

The First Night of  the Tantra
The Second Night of  the Tantra
The Third Night of  the Tantra
The Fourth Night of  the Tantra
The Fifth Night of  the Tantra
The Sixth Night of  the Tantra
The Seven Night of  the Tantra
A Continuation

 

                            

COUPLES RITUALS:  THE SEVEN NIGHTS OF THE TANTRA

THE FIFTH NIGHT OF THE TANTRA

The Initiates asked of the Tantric Master:
            "Is not the goal you set for us beyond our grasp?"
            And the Tantric Master replied:
            "As you became aware of your Tantric being through the Rituals you have performed alone, so you can become aware of the being of the Tantric who shares your pleasure.
            "And as you have sought to master your body's pleasure through Rituals, you now become the instrument by which the Tantric who shares your awareness and pleasure shall increase pleasure and master it.
            "Were the goal easily grasped, it would be of no value.  It is the mastery of pleasure  that shall multiply your  pleasure.
            "It is the multiplying  of pleasure, and the mastery of its new  heights, that shall mark each step along the  climb upward to total mastery of life and the universe."
            The climb becomes more precipitous with this ritual. 
            The setting is the same as for the  previous  rituals  for couples.  You sit  at the table and discuss and think about this ritual and the subject  of your Channeling.
            When your glasses of wine have been  drunk, the Female stands, says, "I am ready,"  and slowly removes her clothes as the Male watches. Then she sits  and the Male stands, says, "I am ready," and slowly removes his clothes.
            Totally nude, you kiss and embrace, then walk to the bath.
The now regular procedure of the bath is to be followed.
            Following the bath, you return to the table and sit silently for a few minutes.
            Then pillows are moved away from the table, and you sit facing each other, in the Contemplative Position of Tantra, your hands on each others' knees.
            You say three Awareness Mantras
            The Male says, "I am ready"; the Female removes her hands from his knees, leans forward from the pelvis, to "cup" the Male's penis and testicles, as in previous practice of this ritual.
            Once the Male's genitals are encircled and held, the, Female says, "I  am ready."
            The Male then proceeds with the muscular contractions. After the third contraction, the Female slides her hands, still encircling the penis, away from the base of the penis, along the penis shaft, over the glans, releasing the penis and returning her hands to his knees.
            Three Awareness Mantras are said.
            The Female says, "I am ready," and the Male removes his right hand from her knee, leans forward from the pelvis, and inserts his index finger in her vagina.
            The Male says, "I am ready."
            The Female proceeds with her muscular contractions, contracting the muscles three times, following the same procedure and wording as on the previous nights.
            After the third contraction, the Male removes his finger from the vagina, with a slight pressure tracing the finger across the urethral opening and clitoris, then away from the vagina and back to her knee.
            Now sit silently for a few moments in the Contemplative Position. Then rise, embrace, kiss, and walk together to the bedroom.
            The Female lies on her back on the bed in the Awareness position, knees apart, bottoms of feet touching, hands folded across the abdomen.
            The Male sits on the bed beside her, right on the edge of the bed, his buttocks approximately alongside her stomach. He should keep his feet on the floor, or dangling over the side of the bed, and sit upright. His body should not be in contact with hers. He sits facing the head of the bed, looking down on her breasts and face, his hands on his lap.
            The Female now closes her eyes tightly. She says three Awareness Mantras, then says aloud, "I am ready." She now fixes all her concentration on the yantra imagery of Awareness.
            In this ritual, the Male and Female are to do only as they are directed. There should be no actions that are not specifically called for.
            The Male proceeds as follows:
            With his eyes open, he gazes down at the female lying before him, her eyes closed tightly. He says the Awareness Mantra twice.
            He then slowly lifts his hands and places the index fingers of both bands to her lips, running them along the outline of her lips, softly, as he says three mantras.
            Then he returns his bands to his lap (resting on his legs or thighs, or wherever he chooses, so long as they do not contact the Female, nor touch his genitals).
            Now the Male lifts his hands again and moves them to the Female's breasts, letting them relax, covering each breast with the palm of one hand. Then he slides his hands down along the breasts until the index finger and thumb of each hand reach the nipples. He gently rolls the nipples between his index fingers and thumbs while saying three mantras. Then he returns his hands to the relaxed position on his lap.
            At this point, the Male quietly swings around on the bed, still staying on the Female's right, his legs still off the bed. He is now facing the foot of the bed, looking down on the Female's legs, pubis, and abdomen.
            The Female maintains her position, without moving. She says the mantras as he touches each part of her body, and she holds the image of herself on the bed, each part of her body in turn being touched by the Male.
            The Male now places his hands on top of the Female's hands, which are resting on her abdomen. Then he slides his hands downward on the abdomen, through the pubic hair, across the mons veneris, to rest on either side of the vagina, as he saw the Female do in her Awareness and Control Rituals.
            Then the Male's thumbs part the labia of the vagina and his index fingers press on the clitoris, stroking it gently as he says two Mantras. Then he removes his fingers from the clitoris, allows the labia to close, and lets his hands lie, without pressure, on top of the vagina.
            The Male says two Awareness Mantras. Then he slides his fingers lightly along the labia of the vagina, downward to the premium, where he presses with the tips of his index fingers while saying two mantras.
            Once again he allows his hands to relax.
            After saying two mantras, he uses his thumbs to part the labia. His fingers again press on the clitoris.
            He now continues to press on the clitoris and says these words: "I feel."
            When he says these words, the Female responds, "I feel," it the pressure he is exerting is precisely on the clitoris. If, for some reason it is not exactly where she wishes it to be on the clitoris, she should reach down to adjust the Male's fingers to the precise spot where she desires his finger to press on the clitoris. Once the pressure is where she wishes it, she takes away her hands and says, "I feel."
            The Male should note, by feel and by looking closely (mostly by feel), precisely where the pressure is desired. This is important.
            Once the Female has returned her hands to her abdomen or said "I feel," the Male should relax his hands, remove his finger from the clitoris, allow the labia to close, and rest his hands on her vagina.
            He says two mantras.
            Then he slides his hands downward again along the labia, across the perineum until his fingertips touch the muscles of the rectal opening, where he presses and says three mantras.
            Once again he relaxes his hands, allowing them to lie quietly atop the vagina while he says the mantras twice.
            Then the Male uses his thumbs to open the labia and press with his fingertips on the clitoris. He says the mantra twice, slides the index finger of his left hand into the vagina a short distance, while his right index finger and thumb begin to massage the clitoris and he begins to masturbate the female, trying to duplicate, as near as possible, the actions he has witnessed when she masturbated herself.
            The Male must not enter into any other actions except the act of masturbating the Female. No part of his body should healing touch hers except the hands he is using to stimulate her. The Female must hold onto the imagery she has of herself being masturbated by the Male. She says the Awareness Mantra over and over as her stimulation intensifies.
            The Female must not move her hands from her abdomen until she feels the approach of her orgasm. When the orgasm begins to mount and is impending, as when she is masturbating herself, she takes her right hand from her abdomen, grasps the Male's arm or shoulder, and begins to use the Control Mantra, along with the Control Yantra imagery.
            When she grasps the Male's arm or shoulder, it should be with force, pressing her fingers into his flesh, to signal him that she is switching to the Control Mantra and Yantra imagery.
            The Male should remove his hands from the Female's vagina immediately when she reaches out and grasps him.
            This signal will be used in many other areas of the Tantra. And, as a signal, it must be acknowledged and obeyed by the recipient.
            In this case, the Male is not to add even one additional stroke, touch, or movement once the Female has given him the signal.
            He ceases touching her, completely.
            And since, at this point, the Male has been touching the vagina and watching the stimulation of the Female, he will also find himself in a very sexually excited condition. He, too, should start saying the Control Mantra and using the Control Yantra imagery.
            This is one of the most difficult points of Control in the Tantric exercises. The Male and Female are in the throes of intense sexual stimulation, and there may be almost overpowering desires to deviate from the exercise and engage in sexual foreplay and intercourse.
            This must not occur!
            It is the Control that will eventually bring a hundred times the pleasures. But the Control must be attained and maintained. Without the Control there is no Tantra. The goals are worthless if the Controls are not learned and made a part of the ritual.
            It may take time to master the Control. In fact, you may even lose Control in the highly stimulated atmosphere of the rituals. If so, you cease the ritual and try it again, from the beginning, after a few hours or repeat it the following night.
            Do not become discouraged. Control is attainable, and if the rituals are followed in a slow, deliberate manner, Control can be reached and maintained.
            The Female, using her Control Mantra and Yantra imagery, will slowly bring herself back from the impending orgasm to the point of complete Control, and will then alternate between the Control Yantra and Mantra and the Channeling Yantra and Mantra, which will help reinforce the Control and at the same time put the powerful energy forces of her state of stimulation to use in other areas.
            When the Female starts with the Control Mantra and Yantra, the Male should rise and stand several feet away from the bed, in order to watch the Female attain her control, and at the same time achieve his own Control, to prevent his touching or otherwise further stimulating the Female or himself.
            Once the Female has attained control and maintained it while using the Channeling Mantra and Yantra, she should try to relax on the bed. Then she opens her eyes, sits up, and rises from the bed. She must avoid touching the Male.
            They are to remain silent.
            Now it is the Male's turn to lie on the bed, on his back, knees apart, soles of feet touching; eyes closed. He says the Awareness Mantra three times and establishes the imagery of himself on the bed, the Female seated beside him.
            The Female sits on his right side on the edge of the bed, her feet hanging off the bed or resting on the floor, her hands folded on her lap facing the head of the bed, looking down at the Male's face and chest.
            No part of the Female's body may touch the Male's.
            Because the Male has been stimulated masturbating the Female, his Control may be under great pressure at this time.
            Once the Male has established his imagery, he says. "I am ready."
            The Female then raises her hands and touches her fingertips to the Male's lips, running her fingers along the outline of his lips and saying two mantras.
            Then she returns her hands to the relaxed position on her lap and says two mantras.
            Her hands next move to the Male's breasts and lie palm down on them. Then the thumb and index fingers of each hand take the nipples and roll them gently while saying two mantras.
            The Female's hands return to the relaxed position on her lap.
            The Female now swerves her body around. Without moving her buttocks off the bed, her feet still off the bed, so that now she is facing the foot of the bed, looking down at the Male's legs, abdomen. And genitals.
            She places her hands, palms down. On top of the Male's hands folded across his abdomen.
            Then she moves her hands from atop the Male's, and slides her fingers downward on his abdomen, through the pubic hair. And encircles his penis with forefingers and thumbs, applying squeezing pressure. She says three mantras; then continuing to hold the penis at its base she slides her fingers away from his body, up the shaft of the penis to the glans. If the Male has a firm erection, she takes the tip of the penis between thumbs and forefingers and slowly squeezes it, watching as it actually diminishes slightly in size, as if the "air" were being squeezed from it. This action will actually lessen the sensitivity of the glans and hence of the penis, and make control easier for the male. Then she releases the penis.
            The Female allows her hands to relax on either side of the Male organs, as she says two Mantras.
            Her fingers slide downward, tracing the underside of the penis to its perceptible "base" within the scrotum. She maintains the pressure there through two Mantras, then releases the pressure and lets her hands relax on either side of the penis and testicles.
            Now her fingers slide downward, around the testicles, under them, to press on the perineum. The pressure is maintained through two mantras, then the hands relax, but stay where they are while two more mantras are said.
            She again slides her hands downward, until her fingertips touch the muscles at the rectal opening. The fingers press inward on the rectal muscles while three mantras are said. Then the hands slide back up to relax on either side of the penis.
            Three mantras are now said.
            Then the thumbs and index fingers encircle the penis and slide upward along its shaft.
            At this point the Female begins the process of masturbating the Male, emulating as nearly as possible the motions she witnessed him using when he masturbated himself.
            The Female should not become alarmed if she notices a bead of semen forming at the opening at the head of the penis. This is normal for males in a high state of sexual excitement and does not mean that the Male is about to have an orgasm and ejaculate. This bead of semen may in fact be used to rub up and down the shaft of the penis, as a sort of natural lubricant in masturbation.
            Because the Male entered into this exercise already in a highly stimulated condition, it may not take long for him to come close to orgasm.
            As soon as the Male feels the first approach of orgasm, he should signal the Female by removing his right hand from his abdomen and reaching out and grasping her shoulder and arm, with sufficient force so that she is aware that this is the signal.
            The very instant that the Female receives this signal, she must immediately cease all movement and remove her hands completely from the Male.
            Here it must be emphasized again that the Male must pull for complete Control, including overcoming any desire to have the Female masturbate him to orgasm. Otherwise, the entire purpose of the Tantric exercises will be lost.
            When the Male senses the approach of orgasm, as when he masturbates himself, he must immediately signal the Female, and allow her to move away from him.
            He must, at once, start using the Control Yantra imagery and the Control Mantra, to bring the needed Control.
            The Female should rise from the bed and stand a few feet away, to wait silently and watch while he Male attains his Control.
            The Male should alternate between the Control Yantra and Mantra and the Channeling Yantra and Mantra, until absolute Control has been attained and maintained.
            Only then may he open his eyes and get up from the bed.
            He must avoid touching the Female, and she him.
            Now walk from the bedroom, back to the low table. Silently sip your wine and eat your food. You may call upon your Control Yantra and Mantra, as needed. Each of you will respect the other's control and will be silent at all times when the partner squeezes eyes closed and is obviously striving for additional Control or Channeling.
            You should now talk about the ritual and exchange thoughts and feelings, as you eat.
            At the end of the hour, you will know that you have accomplished one of the most difficult exercises of the Tantra. And you may now enter into lovemaking in any way you wish. The extremely charged stimulation of masturbating your partner to the point of unfulfilled orgasm, and in turn being masturbated to the verge of orgasm, will bring incredibly heightened pleasure to your lovemaking.
            You will be more aware than ever of your own sexual sensitivity, and that of your partner. You will be able to bring your partner to new heights of sexual ecstasy. And the Control you have exercised will result in orgasms of greater power and duration than any you have ever known.
            Once your highly acute sexual stimulation has been satisfied and you are ready for sleep, the Tantra reminds you that every night, for the rest of your lives, you should fall asleep utilizing the Channeling Mantra and Yantra imagery, to help your life be more what you want it to be, through the use of the same great energy source that has brought you the pleasure of this night.

 

SPECIAL RITUALS  AND NOTES ON TANTRIC SEX

Erection
New Partners
The Tantra and Age
Female multiple Orgasm
The Tantric Vagina
Prolonged Orgasm
Oral Sex: Fellatio
Vaginal Orgasm
Anal Stimulation
Menstruation
Tantric Psi
Tantric Yoga
Contraception
The Setting for sex
Oral Sex: Cunnilingus
Chakrapuja: The Tantric "Orgy"
Studying the Tantra
Conclusion