THE MEANING OF TANTRIC SEX

The Mantra
The Yantra
About the Rituals
The Tantra Says
The One-Hour Rule

THE FEMALE ALONE RITUALS

The Mantra of Awareness
Awakening
Yantric Awareness
The Yantric Body
Focusing
Physical focus
Intensifying focus
Control of Pleasure and Power
Channeling Power and Energy

THE MALE ALONE  RITUALS

The Mantra of Awareness
Awakening
Yantric Awareness
The Yantric Body
Focusing
Physical focus
Intensifying focus
Control of Pleasure and Power
Channeling Power and Energy

COUPLES RITUALS:  THE SEVEN NIGHTS OF THE TANTRA

The First Night of  the Tantra
The Second Night of  the Tantra
The Third Night of  the Tantra
The Fourth Night of  the Tantra
The Fifth Night of  the Tantra
The Sixth Night of  the Tantra
The Seven Night of  the Tantra
A Continuation

 

                            

COUPLES RITUALS:  THE SEVEN NIGHTS OF THE TANTRA

THE THIRD NIGHT OF THE TANTRA

The Tantric Master spoke:
            "Female and male draw their joy from the centers of pleasure each comprehends within the other. Each serves the other, gives to the other. Then in turn each is served and received. And thus the chain of pleasure is unbroken; the energy created, magnified; the power over the universe, attained.
            "In ritualistic praise to Kali shall the male seek to Control his great powers for pleasure as he devotes his mind and body to giving pleasure to the Female.
            "Likewise, in ritualistic form as praise to mahakala, shall the Female Control all energy and capacity for unlimited pleasure with herself and devote her mind and body to bringing pleasure to the Male."
            Again the repast is set on the low table and you drink one glass of wine each, and contemplate the Ritual and the Channeling of the evening.
            When he has finished his glass of wine, the Male stands near the Female, who remains seated. The Male says, "I am ready." The Female stays where she is and watches as the Male undresses himself. He removes each piece of clothing slowly, until he is standing completely nude before her.
            Facing his partner, the Male now closes his eyes tightly, his arms by his sides. He now begins, alone, the Awakening Ritual, his fingertips to his lips, then relaxing his arms; then bringing the fingertips to apply pressure to each nipple in turn; then resting the fingertips on his abdomen and sliding them downward to the base of the penis, which he encircles with the fingers, and applying Awareness pressure ("squeezing"). Then he relaxes his hands and lets them hang at his sides. Eyes closed, the Male holds the imagery of his actions in his mind, and says the Awareness Mantra as he touches each part of his body.
            The Female watches each movement intently, paying careful attention to the manner in which the Male applies the Awareness pressure to each part of his body.
            Then the Male sits.
            The Female now stands and says, "I am ready." Then she undresses, removing each garment slowly. The Male watches from his seated position.
            When the Female is standing nude in front of the Male, she faces him and closes her eyes tightly. Now she begins the Awareness Ritual, touching her fingers first to her lips; then bringing the fingers to each breasts and nipples; then bringing the fingers to her abdomen, and slowly sliding them down the abdomen to exert Awareness pressure on the vagina.
            At each point, the Female pauses long enough to say the Awareness Mantra once; and during the entire ritual she hold the yantra imagery of her actions firmly in mind.
            By the time this ritual is attempted, both partners should have used the Awakening Ritual often enough that they can go through the ritual slowly, holding the image and saying the mantra, without hesitation. There should be little or no self-consciousness about it with the partner watching. Indeed, that is part of the purpose of this portion of the exercise: to remove any remnants of self-consciousness or inhibitions between the partners, as well as adding a new dimension to their Awareness.
            When the Female has finished the Awareness Ritual, the Male stands beside her. They face each other and embrace, then kiss; the touching of their lips and their bodies is the only contact between them.
            Now, as on the previous night, they proceed to the bath.
            The Tantric texts are explicit about the bathing process as a part of these exercises. But the emphasis is on the bathing of the genitals (hips and anus included), and the bathing of the breasts. An entire "bath' is not necessarily required.
            For example, the tub may be filled one-third full and the Male and Female alternately kneel in the warm water, while the other partner washes breasts and genitals with a warm soapy cloth, then rinses the areas washed, drying off the partner when she or he steps from the tub. Or you may take a shower together, each in turn washing the other, then drying one another. Or, if a bidet is available, one partner at a time may straddle the bidet and the other wash his or her genitals, then dry them.
            Any of these variations of the bath will serve equally well, provided you wash and dry each other.
            After the bath, walk together to the bedroom.
            Be sure to remember that the bedroom is to be adequately lighted. Tantra abhors darkness and the loss of visual sense and sensation.
            Embrace for a moment, then the Male should lie on the bed, assuming the position used for Awareness Rituals: knees apart, soles of feet together, hands folded across the abdomen.
            The Female should sit passively at the foot of the bed, if possible in a position just below the Male's feet, so that she can watch without having to move.
            The Female should pay quiet, concentrated attention to each movement made by the Male, noting particularly the precise manner in which he touches himself as he proceeds.
            The Male should close his eyes tightly, and begin by saying the Awareness Mantra to himself, while fixing in his mind a vivid image of himself, as he always does during this exercise.
            Do not rush. The image must be firmly fixed; then the Male may begin as follows:
            First fold your hands across your stomach at navel level. Slowly move your hands to heal touch your lips, yantra imagery and mantra fixed in the mind, for this and all other movements. Then your hands return to the abdomen. Next, the index fingers and thumbs move to nipples of each breast, rolling the nipple slightly.             Once again your hands return to the abdomen, then move down the abdomen through the pubic hair, encircling the penis and squeezing the base of the penis.
            Now, return the hands to the abdomen, say the Awareness Mantra three times while relaxing, then repeat the Ritual. This is a deviation from the Focusing Ritual, where usually the second phase is only the imagery of repetition. This time actually move the fingers and thumbs to the lips, nipples, abdomen, and penis again.
            After pressure is applied to the penis the second time, relax your hands but keep them on the penis, saying the mantra again as the index fingers move downward, following the outline of the penis to its deepest perceptible base, within the scrotum, exerting just enough pressure for pleasure.
            Relax your hands, then slide them downward, until the index fingers come to the perineum, where pressure is exerted. Relax the hands again, and slide the fingertips across the perineum to the rectal muscles, and apply inward pressure.
            Then return the hands to the base of the penis, encircles it, and apply pressure.
            Then return the hands to the abdomen and relax. Repeat Three Awareness Mantras. Then open your eyes and sit up.
            At this point there should be no discussion of the ritual. Concentration on the ritual itself should be of prime importance.
            The Male now rises from the bed. The Female rises and they embrace for a silent moment.
            Now the Female lies on the bed, assuming the same position: hands folded across abdomen, knees apart, soles of feet pressed together.
            The eyes are to be closed tightly, the mantra repeated, and the yantra imagery of herself firmly established before proceeding. There should be no rush. Each facet of imagery must be attained before the rituals begin.
            The Male sits passively, quietly, at the foot of the bed.
            Once the Female has attained her imagery, she should continue the Mantra and proceed by brining fingers to lips, then returning the hands to their position on the abdomen.
            Bring the fingers to the breast, then upward on the breasts to the nipples, touching and "rolling" the nipples in a pleasingly sensual manner, then returning the hands to the abdomen.
            Now slide the hands slowly down the abdomen, through the public hair, across the mons veneris, to rest on the vagina. The thumbs then slowly part the labia and the fingers exert pressure on the clitoris. Return the hands to the abdomen and say the Awareness Mantra three times.
            Then, rather than the second phase of doing the ritual in imagery alone, the ritual is repeated physically; fingers to lips; then to nipples, rolling them; then to abdomen, down across the mons veneris to the vagina, thumbs parting the vaginal labia, fingers exerting pressure on the clitoris.
            Now, do not return your hands to your abdomen. Rather, allow them to relax on the vagina. Then slide the index fingers downward until they touch and exert pressure on the perineum. Then return your hands to the vagina, open the labia and exert pressure on the clitoris. Again relax the hands, resting them on your vagina.
            Say one Awareness Mantra and slide the hands across the perineum, to exert inward pressure on the rectal muscles. Then bring the hands to rest on the vagina, open the labia, and apply pressure to the clitoris. Then return the hands to their crossed position on the abdomen.
            Repeat three Awareness Mantras, and then open your eyes and sit up.
            Without speaking, the Female and Male should embrace for only a moment and walk together from the bedroom to the low table in the Meeting Room.
            As you sit across from each other, say the Awareness Mantra.
            Then separate, go into different rooms, and lie once again in the Awareness position.
            Then, separately, as you have just done in each other's presence, go through the Awareness Rituals and proceed as on previous nights to the Control Ritual, stimulating yourself to the verge of orgasm, and Controlling the orgasm to prevent its occurring.
            Once Control is attained, use the Channeling Mantra and go through the Channeling Ritual.
            When the Channeling Rituals have been completed, each partner will say, "I am a ready," and when both of you have voiced this, rise and return to the table.
            At the low table note the time, then sit and drink and have your repast. As necessary, use the Control Mantra and Control Yantra imagery to maintain Control.
            Use the Channeling Mantra and Yantra imagery to reinforce the Channeling you have begun.
            Following the ritual of the Third Night, observe the One-Hour Rule, as you maintain your Control and use your Channeling, enjoy your food and drink, and converse with each other.
            When forty-five minutes have passed, sit opposite each other in the Contemplative Position of Tantra-the Female's knees raised, feet flat on the floor, legs apart. The Male moves into the position, his knees raised; his feet resting on the either side of her buttocks; your hands resting on each other's kneecaps.
            In this Contemplative position, concentrate on each others' genitals, while repeating two times the mantra of Awareness.
            Once the mantra is finished the Male should say, "I am ready."
            The Female removes her hands from the Male's kneecaps and leans forward from the pelvis, extending her right and left hands to the Male's genitals. Keeping her palms up, she rests the index finger and thumb of each hand on either side of the base of the penis and scrotum. Slide the index fingers downward, until they are under the base of the scrotum, then close the thumbs around the top of the penis, close the palms of your hands, and cup the penis and testicles within your hands. Apply pressure, holding the organs only tightly enough to be aware of their presence in your hands.
            Still holding the penis and testicles in her hands the female says, "I am ready."
            When she says this, the Male repeats the Awareness Mantra as he contracts the muscles of his groin in the manner set forth in the Yantric Body exercises. He should perform the muscular contractions just as he does when alone. While contracting them muscles, he says the Awareness mantra again, and closes his eyes tightly, forming the imagery of the muscular contraction, the "tubes," and the "filling" as specified. His eyes remain closed.
            Then he relaxes the muscles. The movement of the contraction along with the imagery should be very noticeable to the Female, who says, "I feel." The Male does not open his eyes.
            The male then repeats the muscular tightening, imagery, and mantra, holding the contraction as long as is comfortable.
            Again the female says, "I feel."
            And a third time the Male contracts the muscles, while holding the imagery, his eyes still closed, and saying the mantra for the third time. He then relaxes the muscles again.
            And the Female says, "I feel." She then relaxes the index fingers from beneath the scrotum and slides them upward, so that her fingers and thumbs are encircling the penis at the base. Thus the exerts slightly more squeezing pressure and slowly pulls her hands, still encircling the penis, away from the Male's body, along the shaft of the penis, to the tip. She then returns her hands to the Male's kneecaps. At this point the Male will have an erection. If he is aroused to the point of distraction, he should repeat the Control Mantra aloud, so that the Female will know to wait for him to attain Control.
            Only the actions specified are to be done by the Female. She should do no additional fondling, stroking, or massaging and handling of any kind.
            Now the couple both say the Control Mantra twice, to reinforce their control.
           The Female says, "I am ready." She sits passively, her hands on the Male's knee caps, her eyes closed tight.
            The Male now moves his right hand from her knee cap and leans forward from the pelvis.
            His right hand moves slowly to the Female's vagina. His right thumb and index finger part the labia, making a conscious effort not to touch or stimulate the clitoris. Once the labia are parted, slowly and gently insert the right index into the vagina, the palm of the hand up, the thumb and other fingers balled into a "fist," out of the way. The Male holds his finger perfectly still and concentrates on feeling the "pressure" of the vaginal muscles.
            With the finger in place, the Male says, "I am ready."
            The female then proceeds with the imagery of this ritual, as when it is performed alone. Holding this imagery, she says the Awareness Mantra while contracting the vaginal muscles. Then she relaxes the muscles.
            The male says, "I feel," as he does indeed feel the vaginal muscles move against his finger.
            A second time the muscles are contracted, the imagery reinforced, and the mantra said; then the contraction is relaxed after being held as long as possible.
            When the Female relaxes, the Male again says, "I feel."
            A third muscular tightening is now done the contraction held as long as possible, the imagery maintained, the mantra said.
            When the third contraction is finished, the Female relaxes.
            Slowly the Male begins to pull his finger from the vagina, exerting a slight upward pressure. As you do this, slide your finger from the vagina, upward across the urethral opening and across the clitoris. Then without hesitation, again place your right hand on you partner's kneecap.
            It should be clear that if, at any point in this part of the ritual, either partner feels overwhelmingly aroused, she or he should begin immediately to say the Control Mantra and concentrate totally on the Control imagery.
            By performing this ritual in the Contemplative Position, after the solitary Control Rituals have been completed, and the One Hour (almost) has passed, the ritual furthers Awareness; the muscular contractions of the ritual are "shared" and another aspect of Control, the key to Tantra is achieved.
            After this Contemplative Ritual is completed, the couple should retire to bed, to enjoy each other and their increasing Awareness of each other, without thought of anything but their own pleasure.
            And, once again, when sleep is upon you, you should ease into the restoring pleasure of sleep with the Channeling Mantra and Channeling Yantra imagery, using the great storehouse of energy and concentration you have gathered to work for you while the body rests in sleep.

 

SPECIAL RITUALS  AND NOTES ON TANTRIC SEX

Erection
New Partners
The Tantra and Age
Female multiple Orgasm
The Tantric Vagina
Prolonged Orgasm
Oral Sex: Fellatio
Vaginal Orgasm
Anal Stimulation
Menstruation
Tantric Psi
Tantric Yoga
Contraception
The Setting for sex
Oral Sex: Cunnilingus
Chakrapuja: The Tantric "Orgy"
Studying the Tantra
Conclusion